Princess Kate's surgery news ignites gossip. Why you should mind your business.-InfoExpress
Princess Kate will be shying away from public duties "until after Easter" following a "planned abdominal surgery, Kensington Palace announced Wednesday.
Princess Kate asked for privacy amid her recovery. "She hopes that the public will understand her desire to maintain as much normality for her children as possible; and her wish that her personal medical information remains private." Perhaps in a move to help facilitate that privacy, the palace also dropped news that King Charles III was having a procedure right around the same time.
Yet almost immediately, many began to speculate the reason for the surgery. Google searches surged for queries such as "what surgery did Kate Middleton have?" and "reasons for abdominal surgery" as well as for specific procedures and their recovery times.
But the reality is that no family – famous or otherwise – is immune to health issues of any sort, and everyone deserves privacy when they withhold details. Serious stories often lurk behind silence.
"Public figures need privacy to cope, heal, and develop a strategy to move forward just like everyone else," Amy Morin, psychotherapist, author of "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do" and the host of a podcast, previously told USA TODAY. "Working through issues privately can give them space to manage their emotions and strategize how to move forward without the distraction of outside opinions."
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Princess Kate, celebrity and medical privacy
The royals have a long, complicated history with the press. They have denounced the tabloid appetite for details in their personal lives – but have also walked hand-in-hand with the press to promote their royal duties and causes.
In recent years, Kate and Prince William have mirrored celebrities in sharing news they want to share on their social media profiles and via official royal press releases.
"Boundaries are essential to lead a healthy life," Laura Petiford, a licensed marriage and family therapist, previously told USA TODAY. "Healthy people respect the boundaries that others establish for themselves."
It's easy to ignore others' boundaries, however, in current times. "In the age of social media, the general public has become trained to share not only their most private moments, but to also expect others to do the same," psychologist Reneé Carr also previously told USA TODAY.
Kate has insisted on privacy on the outset – meaning questions about her condition to any fellow royals, including her husband, will come off as intrusive.
"If they want to keep their crisis private, it's important to respect that," Morin adds. "They may need space to process their feelings without outside opinions. They may also be trying to respect the privacy of a loved one by not sharing details."
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Why celebrities, royals deserve privacy too
The public often insists they deserve to know all the ins and outs of celebrities lives. But do they really?
"If we put ourselves in their shoes, we would want to be able to have a private life especially when dealing with sensitive or difficult issues," Petiford adds. "Yes, they have chosen to lead a life that is more in the public eye but they have not forfeited their human need to draw a distinct line between themselves and those who are interested in them."
You'd want the same privacy for yourself during life's cruelest moments, wouldn't you?
"We need privacy to not only cope with the situation, but to also try to makes sense of what has happened or is happening to us and try to figure out how to move on," Carr adds.
Moreover, no one going through a difficult time wants to hear every opinion about their situation, whether you're a celebrity or not.
"Comments from other people can be upsetting and distracting," Morin says. "During a crisis, it's important to devote your energy to things that matter most. You only have so much time and energy and the last thing you want to do is waste it on combating outside forces that could affect your decision-making."
Contributing: Naledi Ushe